Dear Little Lost Girl,
And what he truly is, is unworthy of a woman like you!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. I Cor. 13:4-8
Dear girl, you knew what God says about Love, but you forgot. And now you think you are stuck. You have made mistakes, and you feel there is no way out. Like Macbeth, you feel you have gone too far into the swamp and now you must just muddle on through to the other side.
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.
I Cor. 10:13God has given you faithful friends to advise you, friends who love you enough to pick you up when you have stumbled and to walk with you along the path God has set for you. He will not leave you alone. Even when you feel alone, He holds you in His hands.
He knows everything you have thought and done, and He still loves you. You cannot do anything that will make God stop loving you. So please, please, please, my dear girl--turn to your heavenly Father who is not too busy to care for you. Turn away from the world's false love and live in God's true Love! If that seems to look like loneliness for now, remember that is the world's definition of loneliness. With God by your side, you will never be alone!
I've seen so many girls in your situation, and those that have chosen to seek the love of a man rather than God's love have always, without fail, lived to regret it. This man has come between you and God--and not for the last time--unless you can find the strength to tell him:
"You may not respect me, and you may think you can manipulate me and that I will always do what you want, but I know my true worth. In God's eyes I am worth the blood of His Son! That is the kind of Love I want! I want love that is not self-seeking. I want Love that always protects me! So good-bye! We are finished! But God and I are just beginning anew!"
Dear girl, I would have stood as a mother for you to help you plan your wedding, and I now take upon myself the burden that your mother would take if she were still here--to tell you the hard truth that I know will break your heart, but which will save you even more pain in the future.
With much love,